Objectives
By the end of this module you will be able to:
- Recognize common warning signs that someone may be thinking about suicide.
- Notice changes that can happen during grief.
- Know which signs mean you should act right away.
Lesson
What a warning sign is
A warning sign is something a person says, does, or shows that may mean they are thinking about suicide. Warning signs do not predict what will happen. They are an invitation to check in, ask, and stay close.
Things people may say
- Talking about wanting to die or not wanting to be here.
- Talking about feeling trapped, hopeless, or like there is no way forward.
- Talking about being a burden to others.
- Saying goodbye in ways that feel final.
Things people may do or show
- Pulling away from friends, family, and things they used to care about.
- Giving away meaningful belongings or putting affairs in order unexpectedly.
- Big changes in sleep, eating, or energy.
- Using more alcohol or drugs.
- Acting recklessly, or showing strong anger, agitation, or shame.
- A sudden calm after a time of deep distress, which can sometimes be a warning sign.
Grief and warning signs
Some of these changes, like poor sleep or withdrawing, are also common in grief. That overlap can make it hard to know what you are seeing. You do not need to sort it out alone. When you notice changes, especially more than one, or any talk about dying, the next step is to ask.
When to act right away
If someone talks about a plan, says they intend to act soon, or you believe they are in immediate danger, call 911. Stay with them if it is safe for you. If they are not in immediate danger but you are worried, you can call or text 988 together, or call 988 yourself for guidance.
GGN practiceMy noticing list (about 10 minutes)
Think of someone in your life who is grieving. Without judging, write down any changes you have noticed in how they talk, sleep, connect, or spend their time. Circle anything that worries you. Then write one way you could check in this week.
Fictional storyFictional Story 2.1: Marcus at work
Marcus, a quiet coworker whose brother died last spring, has started giving away his tools and told a colleague, "You won't have to deal with me much longer."
Questions to consider:
- Which warning signs are present?
- What should the colleague do?
Discussion: Giving away belongings and talk of not being around are warning signs. The colleague should find a private moment, ask Marcus directly about suicide, and help him connect to 988. If Marcus says he plans to act soon, the colleague should call 911.
Reflection Prompts
- Which warning signs would be easiest for you to miss?
- Who in your circle might hide pain behind being busy or cheerful?