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Module 3 of 6

Stigmatized Losses

About 1 hour

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Lessons in this module
  1. Losses surrounded by stigma
  2. How stigma affects grief
  3. Responding with compassion

Objectives

By the end of this module you will be able to:

Lesson

Losses surrounded by stigma

Some deaths and losses carry stigma, such as deaths by suicide or overdose, deaths related to illnesses people judge, deaths in prison, or losses connected to addiction. Grievers may fear judgment or face blaming questions.

How stigma affects grief

Stigma can lead people to hide the cause of death, avoid support, or feel shame and guilt. It can also lead others to stay away. People bereaved by suicide or overdose may also face a higher risk of their own distress.

Responding with compassion

Focus on the person who died and the person grieving, not the cause. Use respectful language, such as died by suicide or died of an overdose. Avoid details of how the death happened. Offer hope and point to support, including 988.

GGN reminder: No one deserves to grieve in shame. Every loss deserves compassion.
GGN practiceWords that respect (about 10 minutes)

Write three phrases you could say to someone grieving a stigmatized loss. Check that each centers the person and avoids blame. If this brings up pain, pause and reach out to someone you trust, or call or text 988.

Fictional storyFictional Story 3.1: The quiet obituary

When Elena's son died of an overdose, she felt she could not tell people the cause. At a coffee shop, a friend asked gently, I heard about your son. Would you like to tell me about him? Elena talked for an hour about his humor and kindness.

Questions to consider:

  1. What did the friend do well?
  2. How can supporters reduce stigma?

Discussion: The friend focused on Elena's son as a person and invited memories. Supporters can avoid blame, use respectful language, and keep showing up.

Reflection Prompts

  1. What losses do you think carry stigma in your community?
  2. How has stigma affected grief for you or others?
  3. How can you respond without blame?

Module 3 Quiz

Choose one answer per question, then check your answers. You need 4 of 5 correct to pass, and every critical item must be correct. You can retake it any time.