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Global Grief Network Education Center
Module 4 of 6

Relationships Under Strain

About 1 hour

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Lessons in this module
  1. Strain on relationships
  2. Different styles
  3. Talking about needs

Objectives

By the end of this module you will be able to:

Lesson

Strain on relationships

Repeated losses can stretch families and friendships. People may have little energy for each other, grieve in different ways, or feel let down when others cannot show up.

Different styles

One person may want to talk while another needs quiet or activity. These differences can cause misunderstandings. Both styles can be valid.

Talking about needs

Short, clear requests help: I need a quiet evening, or Could you help with the kids on Saturday? Checking in with each other regularly, even briefly, can keep connection alive.

GGN reminder: Grieving together does not mean grieving the same way.
GGN practiceNeeds and offers (about 10 minutes)

Write one thing you need from someone close to you right now, and one thing you could offer them. Consider sharing both. If this brings up pain, pause and reach out to someone you trust, or call or text 988.

Fictional storyFictional Story 4.1: Different rhythms

After losing two family members, Sara wanted to talk every night, while her partner Ben threw himself into fixing the house. Sara felt Ben did not care. Ben felt pushed.

Questions to consider:

  1. What might help Sara and Ben?
  2. How can different styles both be honored?

Discussion: They could each name what helps them grieve and agree on small ways to connect, such as a short talk after Ben's project time. Both styles are valid.

Reflection Prompts

  1. How have losses affected your relationships?
  2. How do your grieving styles differ from those close to you?
  3. What small check ins could you start?

Module 4 Quiz

Choose one answer per question, then check your answers. You need 4 of 5 correct to pass, and every critical item must be correct. You can retake it any time.